GBL 021: Why Choosing Who You Spend the Most Time With is So Important for Your Future

Get Busy Living Podcast 21

Who do you spend the most time with? Who are your conversations with on and offline most of the day? If you haven’t thought much about it, then I suggest you start to think about it because your future depends on it.

Jim Rohn said we are the average of the five people we spent he most time with. He could tell our wealth, health, and quality of our relationships just be knowing more about those five people.

We don’t pay much attention to who we spend the most time with. Sometimes it’s not our choice, but sometimes we do have a choice. Imagine hanging out with co-workers after work and everyone is talking about how much they hate their job, or how stupid the boss was today. You’re going to join in on the conversation so you won’t be left out of the group.

How will you feel afterwards? You’re going to remember how much you hate your job, how your life sucks, how you have these big dreams, but haven’t done anything with them. It’s one negative thought after another.

If you truly want to be a better version of yourself and reach those big dreams you have, you can’t be spending time with people who don’t share the same dreams as you.

Like I share to on my newsletter, you can’t be an eagle if you always hang out with chickens. Soon enough you’ll believe that you’re just a chicken.

In episode 21, I talk about the importance of choosing who you spend time with. I give advice on how to handle people you can’t remove from your life like a family member or relative.


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  • Great discussion. I’ve found being around people who are excited and motivated to pursue what they are interested in really helps me out. Its been ok for me if they weren’t headed toward the same goals as me, so long as they had some clear goals in mind.

  • Cindy Rosen

    This week’s blog was right on the money! It’s so important to surround yourself with positive and supportive people while limiting your time with toxic people. I try not to let the toxic people pollute my enthusiasm. But, to your point, it does take a concerted effort to do so. These negative folks tend to creep into our world if we aren’t on alert. Thanks Benny for reminding me to stay positive!

  • Great post and podcast episode, Benny! My wife and I are moving soon and wherever we end up (her company she works for is being bought out, so her job is over on 9/30) we’re going to spend time at ToastMasters, and seek out people who we want to associate ourselves with – yoga groups, running groups, etc.. 🙂 Positive minds!

  • chrismarklee

    My free time is focused on family. I have a full time job. I do income taxes for locals part time. During the off season for income taxes I focus on marketing my Income tax business. I enjoy people with integrity who are bright.

    Owner CEL Financial Services

  • Shailesh Patil

    Good Post. I liked it most. Yes. It’s important to stay together with positive and supportive people. Also, try to stay with motivated people.

    SureJob Team

  • M Taylor

    This was a great post! I agree it is really important to stay surrounded by like minded people. They don’t always have to have my same goals but I feel like I am taking a step backwards when I am around toxic people who always complain or can find nothing to be grateful for.

  • Bharat Maddali

    Great post. Thanks