Get Busy Living Podcast Episode 20

We’ve all begun new goals with excitement and enthusiasm, but we find ourselves as time passes, to be less interested in it. Maybe we run into problems or feel unmotivated. This is a constant cycle and we feel like we’re unable to achieve anything in life.

After listening to today’s episode, I hope you’ll find another tool for you to overcome those obstacles that get in your way from where you are now to where you want to be.

If you have this power, you’ll run through walls to get what you want. You just might even cross a piece of wood to a burning building to save someone’s life even though seconds before you said you wouldn’t do it. I talk about that in today’s episode.

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Lose the Microwave Mentality. Get Busy Living Podcast

What is the microwave mentality? It’s expecting instant results. Because of technology, we expect everything to happen in our life quicker. Yes sometimes having things happen quicker is beneficial, but when it comes to achieve your dreams or change something about yourself, quicker is not better.

What happens is when we expect instant results, we get disappointed easily when it doesn’t happen. We want to lose all the weight we’ve gained in the past five years, in just five weeks. We start with zero and expect to earn $100,000 from our new online business in just three months.

We just can’t keep doing this. Stopping the microwave mentality is key to releasing the brakes that are holding you back.

In today’s episode, I talk about it, how it hurts us, and what we should be doing instead. I also share a story of the magic penny that exemplifies why being patience and consistent is the better choice.

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Get Busy Living Podcast 18

Hello again! It’s been way too long. I apologize for the month gap between episodes 17 and 18. No excuses from me except that being overseas and out of my normal routine made it tougher for me to find time to do a podcast.

Now I’m back at home and ready to get back to doing what I love, which is podcasting! Since my podcast started in January, it has been downloaded now over 100,000 times! Thank you to each and everyone one of you for listening. I appreciate the emails I get from you and that’s why I love podcasting.

Today’s episode is about my one year anniversary of quitting my job and deciding to go all in with my online business. I’ve been wanting to be my own boss since my mid 20′s, but couldn’t figure out what type of online business to start.

Even when I did start an online business developing iPhone apps, I didn’t quit right away after I tasted success. I stayed at my job for another 1.5 year after the release of Photo 365. I was waiting to see how much I would be making consistently from apps. If my income equaled or surpassed my monthly paycheck, then I would quit.

However, it never did. It was frustrating because I was so ready to quit my job. I hated going to work. I hated feeling like I was wasting my time there. Time that could be used towards something more productive. At least doing something I enjoyed more!

So last year in June, I made the decision to quit my job before I was financially ready. It was scary. I was going to live off of whatever I had in my bank accounts and hoping I could increase my online income very soon.

I talk about 2013, what I did, how I went through a low point, and how the year turned out.

I mention three pieces of advice to help you if you’re in the same situation as I was.

(Note: I just realized I mentioned saving $100 a day if you know you want to quit your job. I meant to say $100 a month. More reasonable.)

A link that I mentioned in the podcast.

My 2013 Epic Travel Hacking Trip

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I got an email from a woman who told me about her fear of rejection. It’s one of the biggest fears holding us back from a lot of things in life. She has always had a passion for writing, but fear being rejected. And her next sentence was what really stood out to me. She wanted to convince herself that her writing talents were good enough to share with the whole world.

The whole world? That’s a lot of people to please. How could I help her?

The reality is that we can’t please everyone, but sometimes we really want to. If it is not perfect and loved by all, we don’t want to do it.

We want everyone person that comes across what we do to love it. We don’t want to see any 1 star reviews. We don’t want to get a refund on a product or course we are selling.

If we write, blog, sing, act, dance, cook, or create anything, the reality is not everyone will love it. We have no idea how something we create will be received and we definitely cannot please every single person. I’ve gotten two one star reviews for this podcast. I don’t know why. I never thought it was that bad, but obviously someone really doesn’t like it. That’s okay. I can’t please everyone. It’s impossible.

Even you might see a movie you absolutely love. You tell your friends about that same movie, they go watch it, and think it’s the worst movie ever. Same exact movie. What happened?

That director makes the best movie possible. It’s impossible to please the whole world. Some will like it. Some won’t. That doesn’t stop directors from continuing to make movies.
I told her don’t convince herself her writing was great enough for the whole world. That is the wrong approach. Don’t even think about what others will think.

In today’s episode, I talk more about stop trying to make everyone happy. If you’re trying to be perfect, you’ll never finish it because perfect is elusive. When you think you’re done, you’ll find something else wrong with it.

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I’m walking through the aisle at Wal-Mart and I’m trying to figure out what I want for dinner. Actually it wasn’t that difficult of a choice. I was going to eat what I craved the most and would probably miss the most the next 21 days – pizza. I went to the frozen pizza aisle and got one with with sausage and pepperoni.

I felt like a death row inmate enjoying his last meal. I finished every bite even though I was beyond full. I couldn’t leave any leftovers.

Four days later

My wife and I are walking through the same aisles at Wal-Mart. This time I tried so hard to resist the pizza. It wasn’t only the pizza that was tempting me. It was the Oreos or the bag of Lay’s KC Masterpiece BBQ potato chips that I love. I was starving, but I needed to resist.

99% of my body wanted it, but I stuck to the 1% and walked out without a frozen pizza or any of the other junk foods that I love.

We dropped off some groceries at my mom’s house. While we were there, pizza was still on my mind. The past three years whenever I’ve had the tiniest bit of a craving, I’d satisfying it. I’ve always lost the battle. I tried to think of an excuse to have pizza.

It really felt like two voices were talking to me. One said, “Go ahead! What’s the big deal??” while the other one said “It’ll taste good, but you’ll regret it afterwards if you eat it.”

We went home and I immediately made a salad. The hunger went away and felt pleased that I resisted my temptations.

Why am I doing this?

The day after my final pizza I began a 21 day cleanse. The 21 day cleanse would have me eating a lot of fresh natural foods. No more dairy, carbs, processed foods, gluten, refined sugar. and meat. No pizza, fast food, and no ice cream. All the things that I absolutely love.

Why did I want to do this? Because I’ve been feeling like 100% crap. Not just recently, but for the past three years. Ever since I ran my last half marathon in February 2011, I’ve slowly gone downhill.

When I finished my last half marathon, I was in amazing shape, but then I went to Taipei to visit Eleanor and slowly went back to my old ways. When I got back months later, I couldn’t run a mile without being out of breath.

I love to eat. When I eat, I don’t just eat a small portion. I eat until I can barely breath. If there’s opportunity for dessert, I always say yes. It’s a terrible cycle.

I’ve gone through phases since college when I’ve been in great physical shape. That’s how I’d love to be all the time. However it’s always been an up and down roller coaster.

But as I’ve gotten older, my body started to change. Not sure what factors but maybe metabolism slowing down, exercising less, and eating more junk. Probably all three.

Because of the way I was eating, it had side effects. I remember last year being on vacation and I’d get these really bad headaches after taking a nap. Felt like migraines. I’d want to take a nap often because I had a huge meal. I noticed that when I went to bed, my heart was still beating really fast. That wasn’t right. I should be relaxed and calm.

I didn’t like how I looked either. I had this beer gut without drinking any beer. I looked at pictures of me and couldn’t believe this chubby guy I was looking at. It was embarrassing.

Willpower alone did not work

It seemed like everyday I’d tell myself that I was going to change.

I’m a sugar addict. I feel that is my biggest problem. I’ve tried just using willpower to eat less sugar. I sounded like a broken record cause I would always say, “No more sugar for a week” or “I’m not eating this much anymore.”

Yet I’d be back the next day doing the same thing. How good I felt while I ate sugar overpowered any thoughts of long term consequences. I only looked at instant gratification and the more I did, the weaker my willpower got.

I truly believe that sugar is an addiction just like a drug. I always thought just using willpower I could cut back on sugar. It’s not that easy.

I’ve wanted to do a 3-day juice cleanse that has become so popular. Surely I could handle that. I tried once and I made it only one day.

I tried fasting 24 hours twice a week. I survived for a couple weeks, but the problem was after a fast I’d have a huge meal.

I kept looking for a quick fix where I could still eat the foods I loved and still lose weight and feel great.

I had to stop trying that.

21 Day Cleanse – The First Attempt

In October I saw on Facebook a friend’s wife going through the 21 day cleanse. She’d post daily photos of what she made and commented often how good it tasted. I read more about the program and seemed like something I needed.

The benefits of 21 days were:

  • reboot my body
  • clean out whatever toxins I had built up
  • feel great
  • lose weight
  • get rid of food cravings

That’s exactly what I wanted.

Buying the program was not going to guarantee success. Sure I was motivated, but I’ve been motivated before when starting.

But could I do it? Could I not eat meat for that long? What about rice or bread? Would I feel irritable cause I couldn’t have sugar?

For the 21 day cleanse, I liked that it gave me a lot of recipes with great photos. It had a day by day plan of what to eat each meal. I looked through the recipes and some looked good, while others I wasn’t sure about.

I would give it a chance.

I started in November. We went to the health foods store to buy all different kinds of nuts, seeds, and other foods I’ve never bought before. My wife wasn’t going to do it. She looked at the meals and knew she couldn’t survive. She did try some of the meals and snack and loved them.

The first three days I felt fine. I thought I can do this. I wasn’t having headaches or dizziness that some people reported because of withdrawals from caffeine.

The fourth day I hit my wall. Hard. I was so hungry. Anything I couldn’t have sounded so good.

My family wanted to eat Chinese buffet on the fourth day. I hadn’t told them I was trying to do a 21 day cleanse. We go occasionally and I always eat too much. I was torn. It sounded so good. I could have said no.

Then my instant gratification side starts coming up with excuses. My thinking was I’d get rid of my craving and pick back up the day after. I’d be like a cheat day once a week. I eat clean the next six days, but this cheat day would help the cravings.

That was not part of the 21 day plan. I was bending the rules.

I went and it tasted like a 5 star meal.

The day after I ate healthy, but the day after that I had a pizza. The craving came back and I made an excuse that it was okay to have it. So much for going six days of healthy eating. I don’t know what it’s like to be addicted to drugs, but I felt like I needed my pizza to calm down. After that, I never got back on track.

I went back to my old ways. Eat out a lot. Big meals at home. Eating ice cream, chocolate and cookies.

Then we went to London, Paris, and New York in February. It’s easier to eat a lot on vacation and that’s what I did. I had the headaches and just overall discomfort again.

While on the trip, I told my wife when I got back I was going to do the 21 days. She said okay sure, but I don’t know how much confidence she had in me that I’d stick with it. Since we’ve been married, she’s heard me complain about my weight.

I was serious this time. I had my breaking point. This madness had to stop.

I needed to. I hated how I always felt. I especially hated how I looked. I’ve been complaining about it for so long. I got tired of hearing myself complain.

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Get Busy Living Podcast 16

Would you walk away from a fancy job title and a six figure a year salary? It’d be hard to, but in today’s episode I talk to Farnoosh Brock who did just that.

It’s not easy to walk away especially when you decided to start an online business. It’s even harder when friends and family tell you that you’re crazy to do that. Despite that Farnoosh has succeeded and is now a speaker, coach, and writer of two books.

Topics we cover:

  • Climbing the corporate ladder
  • Defining herself through success
  • When she was the most miserable
  • What triggered her to think about leaving her job
  • What’s the one thing she wants you to take away from the interview
  • The drive that made her decide to finally resign
  • What difficulties she faced in her first year after going all-in
  • Ways that we can change the way we think that can help us
  • How asking “so what” can make you worry less
  • What made her husband leave his own six figure job
  • How she got her first traditional publishing deal
  • Myths about juicing
  • Difference between juicing and smoothies

Links:

Prolificliving.com – Her blog with great content

The Healthy Juicer’s Bible: Lose Weight, Detoxify, Fight Disease, and Live Long

The Healthy Smoothie Bible

Fat, Sick, and Nearly Dead

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