Stop Wishing for Life to be Easier

Stop Wishing for Life to be Easier

There’s a big problem out there and it is inside many of us. The problem is many of us want life to be easier. We want change to be easier. We want to lose weight easier. We want to have more confidence easier. We want money to be growing on trees. We want everything to go right.

Technology has helped make it easier in certain areas, but in other areas it isn’t going to help us. It’s dangerous to want everything in life to be easier. It can lead to a life that we don’t want.

Let’s take a look at the definition of easy

“achieved without great effort; presenting few difficulties”

Yes it would be wonderful if the life that we dream about came without great effort. That’s why diet pills are a $3 billion a year industry. We get bombarded with get rich quick offers. Happiness can be had for four easy payments of $19.95.

The desire for an easy life with everything we want is a problem. We haven’t always been this way. We didn’t start off wanting an easy life.

Since we were born, life has presented difficulties for us, but we were resilient. We tried to talk, but it made no sense. If we were hungry, we couldn’t say anything so we cried.

We started to crawl. We tried stand, but it wasn’t easy. We didn’t give up. If we fell, we got back up. If we hit our head running into a wall, we’d be back running near that wall one minute later. We weren’t born quitters.

Then something happened, but it didn’t change overnight.

We now are expected to be rational adults. A rational adults wouldn’t do anything crazy. We’ve been taught to be more safe. Take less risks. Go for security. Don’t ruffle any feathers. Don’t make a scene. Blend in.

Life will be easier that way.

A job is better than no job is what we hear, despite knowing how much we hate that job. It’s easier to stay in a miserable job than to quit and search for another.

As we have gotten older, we’ve lost that sense of fearlessness. We think before we do. Sometimes we think so much that we do nothing. We’re not fighters. We are more easily to quit.

What happened?

We have become brainwashed. We have listened to what our parents, friends, relatives, and society have told us. We hear it so much we believe that is the only reality. We didn’t change overnight. It happened slowly overtime.

We rationalize too much. The freedom we have is actually a bad thing. Too many choices can paralyze us. We want some guidance, but when we follow what others say we should do, instead of listening to our hearts, it kills us on the inside.

We feel that life sucks. It isn’t easy anymore. Those instincts we were born with are still a part of us, but buried by layers of conformity.

It’s a shame

This time is the best time in our life. It doesn’t matter how old we are. What matters is that we’re still alive. That’s why it’s an amazing time. There is so much in the world for us.

One of the biggest problems is that we want success and happiness, but we want it to come without effort. We don’t want to struggle, fail, or face embarrassment. We don’t want to be rejected.

We want everything to be perfect. We want our first business idea to be the big one. We want anything we do for the very first time to be THE one. The one that brings in money, successful, and recognition. We want it and we want it now.

Never mind that we have never started a business in our life. Never mind that we are just a beginner. We want it to be easy. It’s stupid to think we get everything right the first time to do it, but that’s what we hope for.

This kind of thinking leads to getting nothing done. If we expect perfection, we’re creating a impossible reality. Since we know perfection will not happen, we do not even begin. A great life isn’t going to come easy. That’s the reality.

Be careful asking for an easy life

If we wish for life to be easier, we can have it! However, be aware of the type of results we will get.

In order to have an easier life, we take no risks. We never try anything new. When we go out to eat, we eat the same restaurants and order the same thing every time. After work, we come home and have the same routine. We know what we do each day of the week.

We keep the same unfulfilling job because we know how to do it. There aren’t surprises. We show up, do our work, then go home. We get a paycheck every two weeks. Instead of making a huge splash, we just dip our toes into the water.

We are on the sidelines while we read and hear about people doing what we dream about. They are facing challenges, and finding a way to overcome them. We avoid challenges completely, but we also avoid any chance for success.

At least life is easy. We’re free from having to make the tough choices. Our toughest choice of the day is which TV show to watch first.

But then we wonder why we’re not happy. Why can’t we be like that person? We want that success. We’ve done everything we should. We have a house, car, and a job. Why are we not happy? That unhappiness weighs heavily on us. We struggle to get out of bed.

Dreams have gone unfulfilled. We haven’t forgotten about them. We will never forget about them. They don’t just go away. The more we avoid going after our dream, the more it eats us on the inside.

Stop asking and praying for an easier life.

Stop feeling sorry for yourself because you have problems. That is life. Everyone has problems. Oprah Winfrey has problems. Billionaires have problems.

Your Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter friends have problems despite only posting photos and status updates that make it seem like life is one big vacation.

The reality is we all have problems, but each of us handles them in different ways.

Become a better person

“Don’t wish it was easier wish you were better. Don’t wish for less problems wish for more skills. Don’t wish for less challenge wish for more wisdom”

Jim Rohn gives out the best advice. Instead of wishing life was easier for you, become the person that can handle life. Learn more skill so it will solve your problems. Problems are always going to happen.

Only the best can become Navy SEALS after they survive intense difficult tests. For the rest of us, the ones who are the best in life survive intense difficult tests as well.

Determine what YOU need to improve. Having relationship problems? Instead of wishing problems would go away, learn how to communicate better.

Don’t have enough money? Don’t wish to win the lottery. Learn a skill that will increase your salary or start a side business.

Lack focus and procrastinate? Don’t wish that suddenly everything gets done. Study and test different strategies to find what works best for you.

When YOU improve, it stays with you for the rest of your life. It’s like the story about fishing, once I started to know more about ReelChase fishing site I just wanted to know more and more. If someone catches a fish for you, you can eat for a day. Have that person teach you how to fish, and you can eat for a lifetime.

 

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  • Really love this piece, Benny!

    Success is all about taking action. And it’s called “taking” action because no one is going to give it to you. 🙂

    • Thanks John! You so right, but too many people want something w/o doing work. They want a trophy for being a benchwarmer. 🙂

  • This stuck out to me, Benny: “This time is the best time in our life.”

    Tom Ewer from Leaving Work Behind wrote a great piece today about contentment and the importance of contentment when it comes to happiness. All the external things don’t matter as much when we focus on what makes us feel content.

    I love the perspective you bring to this topic of taking the easy way out. When we sit back and look at it, that’s not really what we desire in the first place!

    • Hey Steve. Great to hear from you! I’ll have to go over and read Tom’s piece now. Hope all is well.

  • “Be careful what you wish for, you just might get it.”

    Dare to be different! is my motto, and it works for me.

    Of course, so does being honest. That’s what my blog followers say they love most about me.

    • Honesty is very important because when you open yourself up, you’ll find your true fans. Not everyone might like you, but that’s okay. You really only want the people who like the real you. 🙂

  • Nice one Benny. “Don’t pray for a lighter workload, work for a stronger back.”

    • Thanks David. Great quote too!

  • Emily Hunter

    I’ve always tried to go under the philosophy of ‘what can I do right now?’ and that gives me a more stress free life — and in turn, makes it more awesome. When your advice starts getting followed, that’s when the magic happens. Thank you. 🙂

    • thanks for sharing Emily.

  • Neil Butterfield

    Great post Benny. I like David’s comment too. Here’s mine, what does not kill you, makes you stronger.

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  • Tutu

    Brilliant benny you re so wise you make my day . nothing is easy anyway easy is boring don’t wish for easy life wish for strength to Handel you problem

  • Someone asked me what I do for a living.
    For a moment I thought, and then said, “I’m a researcher of life.”
    And I was pleased with the answer, because to work is to give an expression of love. And if you can not work with love, better leave that job. It is better to sit at the gates of the Temple and receive money from those who work with joy.

    • Thank you for sharing Vanessa. Wonderfully put.

  • Steve Freeman

    Really good advice. I believe that where you place your time, energy, and money is the same place the rewards will come from. I also believe to “act as if”, meaning to emulate those you regard as mentors. Doing those two things will keep a focus and move you forward in life, well, for me it has.

    Thanks

    • Definitely agree with that. Fake it till you make it boost your beliefs.

  • Jan Dixon

    Great article. I thought of two things as I read this article. First I thought of the people who work for years and years so they can make it to the Olympics. Just ask them what would happen if they tried to take the easy route to make it there. I think we all know the answer to that.

    On the other hand, working hard doesn’t mean just working at monumental things. My mom was a worker at home, a “domestic engineer.” But just ask what we, her kids, and our dad would think if she took the easy route and just threw a package of crackers in a sack for our lunch every day. She not only made our lunches and our dad’s every school/work day for years and years (let’s see, 5 lunches times 50 weeks a year times…), but only once that we can remember did she mix them up (my brother wasn’t too keen on getting my sister’s egg salad sandwich!). Not a monumental task to most, but it was to us, and she supplied the example for never doing things the easy way.

    We do a huge misjustice to our kids by giving them the easy way out. Its not that way in the real world. Or at least shouldn’t be.

  • Adam Evanich

    I really enjoyed reading this post. You need to accept the life if hard and get used to it. It’s just like the Rocky Balboa said in in the movie: “Life is about how hard you can get and keep moving forward!”
    Or there is another one from Bruce Lee: “Do not pray for an easy life, pray for the strength to endure a difficult one”
    It’s just like that! 😀
    Thanks for sharing this and have a great day! 🙂

  • ANKIT

    it’s true that easier path can’t take you to the path of success.
    very motivational lines…..

  • Some people find it very hard to stop wishing life was easier. There are sold who feel a sense of entitlement, but this life owes us nothing. When have to find joy in the simple things.

  • Tim Williams

    I’m going to be honest: I still wish life would be easier after reading this post.
    I wish making money was easier, studying was a lot easier and I have no worries. Though, that’s not in it for me. Maybe when I become crazy rich some day. Oh well.. Nice post though, gets you thinking.

  • Simons Robert

    Unbelievably touchable! Found myself in every line… Added to a reading list, will re-read it every week! Thanks for a concentrate of thoughts, glad somebody is thinking big and trying to make people’s life better!

  • Rey

    Hi Benny, you got me thinking for a while. I wonder if there is anyone on the face of Earth who doesn’t wish life to be easy. No matter how wise or mature we become, there comes a point when we say ‘Oh God, please make my life easy’. I don’t think I can ever stop doing that.

  • Alexander

    Great article you have shared with us Benny.
    I would say, it’s nothing but just a poor mentality of such people that they want to become a successful person without giving any effort to their life at all. Such people have to patience on their every step has taken. But now-a-days people have become a very selfish to others.
    As an illustration, “everyone wants their vehicle to park in the shadow but none of them wants to grow even a plant around them”. They just want to survive their entire life with having only a so-called mind-set & i.e. “everything depends upon the destiny and time”. It’s nothing but just a bullshit mentality.
    Benny you really deserve to be praised what you have posted. Keep sharing ahead.

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