There’s a big problem out there and it is inside many of us. The problem is many of us want life to be easier. We want change to be easier. We want to lose weight easier. We want to have more confidence easier. We want money to be growing on trees. We want everything to go right.
Technology has helped make it easier in certain areas, but in other areas it isn’t going to help us. It’s dangerous to want everything in life to be easier. It can lead to a life that we don’t want.
Let’s take a look at the definition of easy
“achieved without great effort; presenting few difficulties”
Yes it would be wonderful if the life that we dream about came without great effort. That’s why diet pills are a $3 billion a year industry. We get bombarded with get rich quick offers. Happiness can be had for four easy payments of $19.95.
The desire for an easy life with everything we want is a problem. We haven’t always been this way. We didn’t start off wanting an easy life.
Since we were born, life has presented difficulties for us, but we were resilient. We tried to talk, but it made no sense. If we were hungry, we couldn’t say anything so we cried.
We started to crawl. We tried stand, but it wasn’t easy. We didn’t give up. If we fell, we got back up. If we hit our head running into a wall, we’d be back running near that wall one minute later. We weren’t born quitters.
Then something happened, but it didn’t change overnight.
We now are expected to be rational adults. A rational adults wouldn’t do anything crazy. We’ve been taught to be more safe. Take less risks. Go for security. Don’t ruffle any feathers. Don’t make a scene. Blend in.
Life will be easier that way.
A job is better than no job is what we hear, despite knowing how much we hate that job. It’s easier to stay in a miserable job than to quit and search for another.
As we have gotten older, we’ve lost that sense of fearlessness. We think before we do. Sometimes we think so much that we do nothing. We’re not fighters. We are more easily to quit.
We have become brainwashed. We have listened to what our parents, friends, relatives, and society have told us. We hear it so much we believe that is the only reality. We didn’t change overnight. It happened slowly overtime.
We rationalize too much. The freedom we have is actually a bad thing. Too many choices can paralyze us. We want some guidance, but when we follow what others say we should do, instead of listening to our hearts, it kills us on the inside.
We feel that life sucks. It isn’t easy anymore. Those instincts we were born with are still a part of us, but buried by layers of conformity.
It’s a shame
This time is the best time in our life. It doesn’t matter how old we are. What matters is that we’re still alive. That’s why it’s an amazing time. There is so much in the world for us.
One of the biggest problems is that we want success and happiness, but we want it to come without effort. We don’t want to struggle, fail, or face embarrassment. We don’t want to be rejected.
We want everything to be perfect. We want our first business idea to be the big one. We want anything we do for the very first time to be THE one. The one that brings in money, successful, and recognition. We want it and we want it now.
Never mind that we have never started a business in our life. Never mind that we are just a beginner. We want it to be easy. It’s stupid to think we get everything right the first time to do it, but that’s what we hope for.
This kind of thinking leads to getting nothing done. If we expect perfection, we’re creating a impossible reality. Since we know perfection will not happen, we do not even begin. A great life isn’t going to come easy. That’s the reality.
Be careful asking for an easy life
If we wish for life to be easier, we can have it! However, be aware of the type of results we will get.
In order to have an easier life, we take no risks. We never try anything new. When we go out to eat, we eat the same restaurants and order the same thing every time. After work, we come home and have the same routine. We know what we do each day of the week.
We keep the same unfulfilling job because we know how to do it. There aren’t surprises. We show up, do our work, then go home. We get a paycheck every two weeks. Instead of making a huge splash, we just dip our toes into the water.
We are on the sidelines while we read and hear about people doing what we dream about. They are facing challenges, and finding a way to overcome them. We avoid challenges completely, but we also avoid any chance for success.
At least life is easy. We’re free from having to make the tough choices. Our toughest choice of the day is which TV show to watch first.
But then we wonder why we’re not happy. Why can’t we be like that person? We want that success. We’ve done everything we should. We have a house, car, and a job. Why are we not happy? That unhappiness weighs heavily on us. We struggle to get out of bed.
Dreams have gone unfulfilled. We haven’t forgotten about them. We will never forget about them. They don’t just go away. The more we avoid going after our dream, the more it eats us on the inside.
Stop asking and praying for an easier life.
Stop feeling sorry for yourself because you have problems. That is life. Everyone has problems. Oprah Winfrey has problems. Billionaires have problems.
Your Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter friends have problems despite only posting photos and status updates that make it seem like life is one big vacation.
The reality is we all have problems, but each of us handles them in different ways.
Become a better person
“Don’t wish it was easier wish you were better. Don’t wish for less problems wish for more skills. Don’t wish for less challenge wish for more wisdom”
Jim Rohn gives out the best advice. Instead of wishing life was easier for you, become the person that can handle life. Learn more skill so it will solve your problems. Problems are always going to happen.
Only the best can become Navy SEALS after they survive intense difficult tests. For the rest of us, the ones who are the best in life survive intense difficult tests as well.
Determine what YOU need to improve. Having relationship problems? Instead of wishing problems would go away, learn how to communicate better.
Don’t have enough money? Don’t wish to win the lottery. Learn a skill that will increase your salary or start a side business.
Lack focus and procrastinate? Don’t wish that suddenly everything gets done. Study and test different strategies to find what works best for you.
When YOU improve, it stays with you for the rest of your life. It’s like the story about fishing. If someone catches a fish for you, you can eat for a day. Have that person teach you how to fish, and you can eat for a lifetime.
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